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When we got married, we entered into our
relationship with visions of fairy tales, where the couple lives
happily ever after. It didn’t take long when differences in our
illusions surfaced. “My way” and “your way” needed to be addressed,
but rarely did it turn into “our way.”
We didn’t know how to communicate our true feelings, because we
assumed that the other would know instinctively. After all, we loved
each other. What we learned over the years is this, we needed help
and support from friends and counselors to get over the rough edges
of life’s trials in everyday encounters.
 
We bring into marriage all the values and dynamics of our own
childhood which hinder us in our new relationship with another
person because deep down there is unresolved pain, insecurities, and
domineering traits. What we needed to do was to confront all of
these hidden needs and expect healing of the inner person. It’s not
easy to discover the truth within, but our faith in a loving God,
revealed in Jesus Christ and recorded in the Old and New Testament
helped us to heal and become mature persons over time.
Each human being is a miracle of creation by a magnificent God,
known in different cultures by many names. This creator God has made
us in His image that we might know him by his love for us and for
each other. We are spiritual beings with a soul that will return to
God when our life on earth is complete. There are no exceptions.
Without the divine law of love that teaches us to love one another
as God loves us and to love our neighbor as ourselves, human
beingsremain selfish and unsensitive to other people’s needs. This
applies to marriage, families and communities and even nations. When
we do wrong or hurt each other, we need to forgive and be restored.
It’s a daily occurrence. Jesus gave his life on the cross that we
might be forgiven for all our wrongdoing. It is the greatest gift
for humankind. To live by that is JOY!
In a marital relationship we need that intimacy of touching each
other, speaking what is on our mind in a kind and understanding
manner, we need to be honest with each other and allow each other
space. We need to enjoy activities together, but also foster
friendships with others. When we are blessed with children, marriage
takes on a new focus of dedication, sacrifice and wonder. Love your
children, discipline them with kindness, educate them, listen to
them, enjoy them. Gratitude is a major attitude toward all of life
‘s blessings that brings happiness. ?Marriage is not a piece of
cake, but very much worth it. The loving support and companionship
of two people is all it takes to grow old together and feel totally
comfortable with each other. Marriage has been likened to a crucible
that refines the gold as it goes through the fire. Here’s to 50
years of marriage and to the future whatever it may bring with the
Lord at our side!
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感受金婚 七月23日是Charles
Acker和Christa Acker金婚紀念日,五十時間如流水般稍縱即逝,五十年多少風風雨雨,一起走過多少人生坎坷,起伏跌宕
,相互攙扶,一起承擔一家的重擔,彼此付出了無與倫比的愛,當我問 Christa
Acker走過婚姻五十年的秘密:她説;他總是對的。而Charles Acker説:我不知道明天我們還是不是夫妻,我們過好今天。
“人生易老天難老”。歲月無情,五十年前英姿勃發的新郞新娘,轉眼變成了滿頭白髮的古稀老人。金婚不是五十年時間的簡單堆積,它里面有着太多的內涵:有痛苦、有歡樂;有坦途、也有坎坷;有相聚、也有別離。正是這種相濡以沫、牽手而行的情感與漫長歲月的相互淘煉,才最終升華爲喩爲黃金般珍貴的婚姻:金婚。
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